«Tobia's constant self-deprecating humor is the most transformative aspect of this book, setting it apart from other trans memoirs. ‘The seriousness of the subject is never overlooked, allowing for an organic and continuous journey from tears to laughter on every page.' The New York Times Book Review. ‘You can judge this book by its cover, as it evokes beauty, loneliness, humor, and resilience, all essential ingredients in Tobia's touching and vulnerable story about growing up without conforming to a gender-policed world.' Salon. A moving, revealing, and funny book about what it's like to grow up not knowing if you are: a) a girl, b) a boy, c) something in between, or d) all of the above. During their childhood, Jacob Tobia wasn't misogynistic, life was very simple to offer. Barbies? Yes. Dirty with mud? Please. Princess dresses? Poor me! Jacob wanted it all and had no problem with anything. But as a man of women, they were labelled as a «girl» and things got complicated from then on. It took years for Jacob to discover that being a «woman» was nothing to be ashamed of. It's a deeply personal story of pain and healing, a powerful meditation on gender and self-acceptance, and a funny guide on how to wear spooky earrings in the modern world.»